Trials

I opened up my email earlier today and there was an email from one of the moms in the RMM group. This is what it said:

"Sisters, I just woke up and found my dear 18 year old in his bed and
he had just passed away. This is the one you dear sweet sisters have
prayed for in the past, Reid. I will write more later."

I've been haunted by this email all day.

Two others have written in the past few days about serious issues, one sister who was excommunicated a few years ago for unknown (to us) reasons and has been trying to stop smoking so she can be baptized again. She wrote of her inability to stop, her guilt, her depression and suicidal feelings, about being 150 pounds overweight.

Another asked for prayers as she and her family confront a son and try to get him to agree to enter an intense addiction recovery program. She says if he is not willing then it will be a "sad, sad situation for him". Sounds like the family has had it and will have to let go.

How can I complain so much about my temporal, earthly trials?

Wonderful YW

Tonight was the Young Women's broadcast. Well actually, the broadcast was in March, but our YW were on a temple trip and didn't get back in time for it. Our own viewing of the broadcast had been scheduled a couple different times, I think, but because of sickness and other conflicts, we didn't get to it until tonight.

The messages and the music were wonderful and made me wish--for the umpteenth time--that I had been a member of the Church as a Young Woman. And it makes me ever-so-grateful that my daughter IS a member of the Church as a Young Woman.

Not that I was a bad kid or anything. But the peace and the joy that knowing that I was a child of God would have brought and the love and support of the entire Young Women's organization and especially the local leaders would have made growing up sooooo much easier. Having the knowledge that Jessica has about her place in this world, of who she is and who she can become, and the guidelines to help her stay on the straight and narrow to return to her Heavenly Father--just a few of the many bounteous blessings that the Gospel brings to her at this time in her life.

And many kudos to our Young Women leaders for the beautiful set-up in the cultural hall after the broadcast. The refreshments were great, and the lighting effects were awesome! It's too bad that we all had to leave so soon after they put in so much work to make it so very special.

Overall, a very nice evening.

Two months later....

Yes, here it is almost two months after my last post. And all the things I said I was going to do way back then? Nothing. But at least here are a couple pictures of my newest "RM" anyway.

He was so tall and thin and lanky that I felt like I could almost get my arms around him twice!















Life with Jonathan home again is pretty fun most of the time, and I love having him home. He's got an amazing sense of humor and is always quick with a joke or wise-guy answer for you. What worries me is that I think he is getting a little too comfortable sitting here at home, trying to catch up on everything that he missed the two years he was gone. I'm hoping that now that he has caught up on The Office, House, 24, Heroes AND read the last Harry Potter book, he will start feeling the need to get out of the house and do something. He HAS filled out 5 or 6 job applications online, but it certainly doesn't help that jobs are so hard to come by these days. He needs to get back to school but also needs some bucks in the bank to do that. So it's kind of a vicious circle.

So that's where Jonathan is right now, kind of stuck. To turn one of his favorite sayings around and aim it back at him, Come on Jonathan--"Let's kick this pig in the rump" and get on with your life!!

Oh My Gosh!

Just a QUICK post!! Tomorrow my missionary comes home! Now that it's almost here, after waiting for two whole years, I can't believe that tomorrow is the day! Where did those two years go?

And all of the sudden this morning I felt like I want everything to be perfect for him when he gets home. Not that there's much that I can do at this point, but I've been going ga-ga around here today, trying to get the house clean and the laundry done and his new room all ready for him. A clean room with an old computer and an old TV and new sheets on his bed is about the best I'm going to be able to do.

I only have pictures on my computer from the past year, but I'll have to find some older ones and post a picture of him from the beginning of his mission and then one from the end. I love pictures. And I'll have so much scrapbooking to do of his mission! I'm looking into digiscrapping, hoping it may be quicker and easier than the old-fashioned way. Doesn't seem like it could be too hard. We'll see.

More after tomorrow!!

Christmas! 2008

Christmas tree hunting at the tree farm in Montague

Jake and Marie and the girls came home to Michigan for Christmas!

Isabelle, 4; Nicolette, 2; Emmeline, 6 months






















Our traditional Christmas Eve picture in front of the living room fireplace includes all kids who are home and usually includes any pets we can corral


I love this one!

Jasper Ray

On Thursday, December 4th, 2008, Jasper Ray Viraldo was born to Jeff and Elaine. Their firstborn, our first grandson. Born a month early via c-section due to Elaine's diabetes, Jasper weighed in at 9lbs., 3 oz., with lots of fluffy black hair and his proud daddy's nose. Mommy came through it all with flying colors and did a great job.

By the time they were ready to leave the hospital on Monday, little Jasper had gone from 9 lbs., 3 oz. down to 7 lbs., 13 oz. But after a bit of a slow start, he has gotten used to being here and is happy and putting weight back on.

Happy 30th!

Well, one of the important events that I haven't posted on yet was the fact that John and I celebrated our 30th wedding anniversary last week, January 12th. Thirty years is practically a lifetime, I'm told.

I was in Grand Rapids on that day, babysitting for my new little grandson, Jasper (oh, goodness--another important thing that happened during my hiatus). Jeff and Elaine bought us a balloon bouquet and gave us a nice card. But on top of that, Jeff and John had conspired and made reservations at a wonderful restaurant in Grand Rapids called The Melting Pot. Jeff and Elaine had been there and told me about it, and it was really somewhere I wanted to go some day. So my thoughtful son passed on that information, and it was a deal! And for helping them out and taking care of the baby during the next few weeks, they also furnished us with a gift card that went a long way to help pay for the occasion.

The menu called it "The Big Night Out", a four-course fondue dinner. First course, chunks of bread, raw veggies, and Granny Smith apples dunked in the cheeses of our choice, melted in a pot right there at our table. Second course, a cobb salad--the only part of the dinner that wasn't fondue. Third course, of course, was the main course--about 6 different types of meat and a bowl of vegetables to skewer and cook in our choice of flavored oil. Many different sauces were arranged on the table to use, but of course we quickly forgot which one went with what.

And then to top all that off, the last course was the chocolate fondue! They had many options, but we went with dark chocolate with pecans. There were bananas, strawberries, marshmallows, brownies, rice krispie treats, angel food and cheesecake a-plenty to drown in the wonderful hot chocolate. My favorite course, of course!

We asked our waitress to take our picture, and then we took a few ourselves. Little did we know that we both still had remnants of chocolate on our lips for later!

Happy 30 years with hopefully many more to come!

Where did the time go...and other ramblings

Wow--last published on October 13th? Holy cow. That was AGES ago! Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year's have all gone by with nary a word from me. Do I try to make them up or just pretend they never happened this year?

So, I'm sitting here finishing up a transcript and smelling dinner being fixed in the kitchen by my husband of now 30 years. The kids are both out of the house right now; it's just the two of us. Mmmm, smells good. So he finishes cooking, gathers up the plate(s) of food, and proceeds to walk past me in the living room and goes into the bedroom to eat while he watches TV! Why does no one in this house ever think of making dinner for ME?

There is excitement in the air around here, for it's only 25 more days until our Jonathan returns home from his mission. He will have been gone for 2 years and 5 days--735 days total.

I've had a couple dreams about his homecoming lately, and the one I had last night was verrrrry strange. It was almost time to go to the airport, but we hadn't checked the video camera to see if it was charged or even still working, for that matter. We also had no balloons or signs to hold! Oh, he was going to feel very cheated. As we went into the airport, out came Jonathan with some other people, and he was wearing the clothes of a "hippie" of the 1960s. He motioned to us that we should pretend not to know him. The next thing I knew he was in his regular clothes and we're welcoming him home. But he wouldn't even hug me. I was so sad. Must have been because we didn't have those balloons and signs.

So, I guess last night's dream was a warning to me. Make sure that camera battery is charged, buy balloons, and make posters in plenty of time to get to the airport!

I guess I'd better get busy and post about some of those other things I mentioned earlier. This isn't really that hard!

Proposition 8

Proposition 8 is a California problem, right? WRONG. It's just knocking at the door of every state in the country, especially if the issue fails to pass in California. If there is any question about the Church's official stand on Prop 8, read on for thoughts of an online friend of mine, Gina Woodhouse, a fellow missionary mom who lives in California. She gave me permission to cut and paste from her blog from Thursday, October 9, 2008.

Prop 8 Broadcast

Keith and I went up to the church last night to hear the broadcast from Salt Lake regarding Proposition 8. Elders Ballard, Clayton, Cook, and Bednar spoke and gave us more information about the impact this will have on society if it fails. They also reiterated the church's stance and stated that this is a moral issue and that the church has asked its members to be involved in every way possible-to give of our time and our means- to ensure that Prop 8 passes.

They quoted from "The Family: A Proclamation to the World" (text to follow) where it states that marriage is ordained of God and that it is part of our Heavenly Father's Plan of Happiness for His children to be able to experience mortality. There is no way that that could happen except through a mother and father.

Members of the church were asked to volunteer up to 4 hours a week to help with this cause. The brethren were asking for at least 30 people per ward and especially the young single adults and young marrieds to take an active role in moving this issue forward. These younger members of the church were specifically asked to use their skills and contacts with the internet (emails, websites, blogs, videos, YouTube, etc.) to get the information out to people everywhere.

Elder Bednar spoke to a group of BYU students and answered their questions. He said that tolerance doesn't mean to accept or condone something that is contrary to your beliefs. We are in a fight right now where it is tolerance (the world's view which means to accept) vs. free speech. One of the consequences of Prop 8 failing is that society would become an increasingly hostile environment for people who believe as we do. We will be expected to accept homosexual lifestyles and yet our own lifestyle of traditional marriage will be under fire and ridiculed when it conflicts with another's point of view.

Churches may lose their tax exempt status if they refuse to perform same sex marriages, church adoption agencies will be forced to close their doors (as the Catholic church did in Masssachusetts rather than place children in homosexual households), there could be sanctions against churches for teaching specific doctrine, and schools will teach children that all marriages are equal instead of allowing parents to teach their own beliefs and moral values to their children themselves.

Elder Bednar said that it is a ripple effect. The immediate effects will be seen right away but there will also be effects over time that would be like the outer ripples in the water. Those ripples will effect society for years to come.

We have almost finished Phase 1 which was the initial contacting of registered voters. Phase 2 is now underway which is to contact those undecided voters to share more information that could help them decide in favor of Prop 8. Phase 3 is already started too which involves signs, more calling, and encouraging people to register to vote.

There will be a big push right up until the day of the election to contact voters and get them motivated to get out to the polls. Members with college students living away from home and missionaries in the field were also encouraged to get absentee ballots for their children.

The Family: A Proclamation to the World

We, the First Presidency and the Council of the Twelve Apostles of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, solemnly proclaim that marriage between a man and a woman is ordained of God and that the family is central to the Creator’s plan for the eternal destiny of His children.

All human beings—male and female—are created in the image of God. Each is a beloved spirit son or daughter of heavenly parents, and, as such, each has a divine nature and destiny. Gender is an essential characteristic of individual premortal, mortal, and eternal identity and purpose.

In the premortal realm, spirit sons and daughters knew and worshipped God as their Eternal Father and accepted His plan by which His children could obtain a physical body and gain earthly experience to progress toward perfection and ultimately realize their divine destiny as heirs of eternal life. The divine plan of happiness enables family relationships to be perpetuated beyond the grave. Sacred ordinances and covenants available in holy temples make it possible for individuals to return to the presence of God and for families to be united eternally.

The first commandment that God gave to Adam and Eve pertained to their potential for parenthood as husband and wife. We declare that God’s commandment for His children to multiply and replenish the earth remains in force. We further declare that God has commanded that the sacred powers of procreation are to be employed only between man and woman, lawfully wedded as husband and wife.

We declare the means by which mortal life is created to be divinely appointed. We affirm the sanctity of life and of its importance in God’s eternal plan.

Husband and wife have a solemn responsibility to love and care for each other and for their children. “Children are an heritage of the Lord” (Psalm 127:3). Parents have a sacred duty to rear their children in love and righteousness, to provide for their physical and spiritual needs, and to teach them to love and serve one another, observe the commandments of God, and be law-abiding citizens wherever they live. Husbands and wives—mothers and fathers—will be held accountable before God for the discharge of these obligations.

The family is ordained of God. Marriage between man and woman is essential to His eternal plan. Children are entitled to birth within the bonds of matrimony, and to be reared by a father and a mother who honor marital vows with complete fidelity. Happiness in family life is most likely to be achieved when founded upon the teachings of the Lord Jesus Christ. Successful marriages and families are established and maintained on principles of faith, prayer, repentance, forgiveness, respect, love, compassion, work, and wholesome recreational activities. By divine design, fathers are to preside over their families in love and righteousness and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families. Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children. In these sacred responsibilities, fathers and mothers are obligated to help one another as equal partners. Disability, death, or other circumstances may necessitate individual adaptation. Extended families should lend support when needed.

We warn that individuals who violate covenants of chastity, who abuse spouse or offspring, or who fail to fulfill family responsibilities will one day stand accountable before God. Further, we warn that the disintegration of the family will bring upon individuals, communities, and nations the calamities foretold by ancient and modern prophets.

We call upon responsible citizens and officers of government everywhere to promote those measures designed to maintain and strengthen the family as the fundamental unit of society.

This proclamation was read by President Gordon B. Hinckley as part of his message at the General Relief Society Meeting held September 23, 1995, in Salt Lake City, Utah.

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A Lesson

Author Anna Quindlen said: “The biggest mistake I made [as a parent] is the one that most of us make. . . . I did not live in the moment enough. This is particularly clear now that the moment is gone, captured only in photographs. There is one picture of my three children sitting in the grass on a quilt in the shadow of the swing set on a summer day, ages six, four, and one. And I wish I could remember what we ate, and what we talked about, and how they sounded, and how they looked when they slept that night. I wish I had not been in such a hurry to get on to the next thing: dinner, bath, book, bed. I wish I had treasured the doing a little more and the getting it done a little less”(Loud and Clear [2004], 10–11).

Wow--that just makes me want to bawl!! I heard that in a Relief Society lesson on Sunday (where I DID cry) and then saw it again on a friend's blog today. It sounds like something that could have been written by ME--except it wouldn't have sounded so good.